Keeping the Feast: One Couple’s Story of Love, Food, and Healing in Italy
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A story of food and love, injury and healing, Keeping the Feast is the triumphant memoir of one couple’s nourishment and restoration in Italy after a period of tragedy, and the extraordinary sustaining powers of food, family, and friendship.
Paula and John met in Italy, fell in love, and four years later, married in Rome. But less than a month after the wedding, tragedy struck. They had transferred from their Italian paradise to Warsaw and while re… More >>
Keeping the Feast: One Couple’s Story of Love, Food, and Healing in Italy
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The author chronicles her life shortly before and after she and her husband received brutal treatment when covering various European assignments. She was brutally beaten when caught in some protests and he was shot while traveling. His injuries required many surgeries and then while healing he fell into a horrible depression.
The book provides the author a chance to reflect on her and her husband’s life and how it so tragically changed after these events. What is unique about this book, is that she has interwoven her relationship with food into their personal story.
Each of us has a relationship with food. It can be as simple as remembering favorites as children, family traditional meals, stories about meals or lore about certain foods that have been passed down. It also can be the rituals of preparing a special meal or even a daily one. Sometimes buying and preparing food where they lived in Italy was so interwoven into the community that it provided a haven for Paula when everything else seemed to be coming apart. . This reminded me a bit of Frances Mayes book; “Under the Tuscan Sun” where the author recounted stories of her life and home restoration along with stories of Italy and its wonderful food. However this book does not provide recipes, nor is as light-hearted. This is a story of survival and there food is integral.
As difficult as the subject matter is, this book reads easily and is very well-written, but it does not candy-coat, the long road of depression. What it does do, is show how the little things in life, the support of good friends, the importance of work and the community around the kitchen table can start to draw those separated from life by anxiety and depression back from the abyss.
I enjoyed the fact that the story weaves back and forth from the current day, to times past where the author mused on an aspect of her past and then showed how it was pertinent. This is how most of us think and it caused me to think of many things in my own life that food played a big part in as well as some of my family traditions.
While reading this book, I could not help think of the path all of us take when faced with adversity or illness. We want to do the right things. Sometimes solutions are not apparent and sometimes they change from time to time. This is one couple’s path and what worked for them. What to me was most notable was the understanding and impetus to change, when things weren’t working. Sometimes that can be the hardest thing to do, as you don’t always have the big picture. Hind sight is 20:20 and when you are in the middle the path is not so obvious.
Congratulations Paula. I’m sure the road ahead still has many bumps, but this book helps pave over some of the old ones.
Rating: 5 / 5
Choosing, cooking, eating, and savoring food is the constant in this memoir. Paula Butturini and her husband met while they were both reporters in Italy. The years they spent together there were golden – good food, good friends and interesting work that included travel in eastern Europe as the iron curtain crumbled. Butturini writes: “I loved John because, like me, he liked to cook as much as he liked to eat, because both of us grew up in homes where honest food was the central magnet that brought us all to the same table two or three times a day.”
Their lives took a sudden and traumatic turn after Paula was beaten by Czechoslovakian riot police in Prague in 1989 just weeks before their wedding. Weeks after the wedding, her husband John was shot in Romania and nearly died. Butturini writes very openly about the depression that threatened to destroy her husband as he recovered. Though it is painful to read of John’s depression, and of Butturini’s mother’s depression, the support that the couple’s family and friends provided to them is heartening.
Butturini made a decision to do whatever it took to help her husband recover, and after moving them back to Italy fed both his body and his heart with the simple but fresh foods that had been the backdrop of their first years together. She is open in this memoir about her own struggles, including her anger, as the months went by, sometimes with little or no improvement in her husband’s depression.
Butturini was told, and came to understand, that trauma changes life irrevocably, and healing involves accepting this painful truth. Though it is a bit of a cliche, this is a heartwarming story of building a new life after trauma and relying on the love of friends and family.
Rating: 4 / 5
Paula Butturini’s memoir Keeping the Feast is more than a true story about a couple’s enduring love set among a delicious Italian background full of food and flavor; it’s a story of hope, and the bond of family, and the anguish of a person helplessly afflicted with depression.
Paula met her second husband John in Italy. They married when she was in her late thirties. Both news correspondents, both with strong Italian-family backgrounds, Paula and John were meant for each other, and their love endured trials many of us cannot fathom. In 1989 Paula was beaten senseless by riot police in Czechoslovakia, just weeks before her and John are to be married. Barely surviving her own trauma, it is only a handful of weeks later when John is shot by a sniper in Romania. Undergoing several surgeries, John barely survives. The couple land back in Italy to recoup, only John suffers a devastating depression that threatens to tear their marriage apart. Paula takes refuge in her Italian markets, diving into her family recipes, the ingredients which held her together as a child as she hopes they can hold her family together now.
Keeping the Feast is marketed as a memoir about the tribulations a couple goes through, and how food kept them together. But I can’t help but look beyond the ingrediants, the never-ending succulent lists of Italian market-wares and herbs. Paula’s own mother suffered from depression, it was something Paula herself feared her whole life. To have her husband, the love of her life, afflicted by the same disease, was terrifying and my heart goes out to her. Not everyone understands the crippling devastation that is depression, the way it can leach into your life, but Paula did, she saw it first hand and she vowed to never let it bury her. She dealt with her husband’s depression, first with silent fear, and then with anger and outrage, and even though he suffered it more than once in their life together, he always recovered, and she was always there.
Keeping The Feast is a heartbreaking, beautiful memoir of the strength of family devotion, tied together by the delicious façade of Italian ruins, and the mouth-watering dishes of Italian food. I thank Paula for sharing her story, and hope we can all be as strong.
Rating: 4 / 5
In her so descriptive you can taste it memoir, Keeping The Feast, author Paula Buttrini describes most of her life and familial traditions, but she centers around a series of tragedies that leave her husband in a persistent depression. Facing a nightmare for any wife, Buttrini lushly describes how something a small as preparing a meal helped her family to heal and survive. Feast slowly doles out the traumatizing incidents that threatened to break her family while the author smartly anchors her story with vivid childhood and adult memories focusing around food. This well organized construction balances out her tear inducing passages of grief and loss. The result is two parts inspiration and one part unchecked food lost that is bound to make your mouth water while providing sustenance for your heart and soul.
Rating: 4 / 5
It sounds like an idyllic life. Two journalists share a love of Italy and food, they get their dream jobs, they have amazing friends with homes in amazing places who invite them to stay for months on end…and then tragedy hits and it all goes wrong. Paula Butterini is on assignment in Czechoslovakia, where she is arrested and beaten by the police during the 1989 riots. A few weeks later, her husband John is hit by sniper fire while in Rumania and is nearly killed. Paula pulls herself together, but John’s wounds are deeper that we first realize. He becomes depressed to the point of losing his ability to speak, his walking is robotlike, he avoids people. For years, Paula’s fun-loving husband becomes submerged in a depression that seens incurable. Doctor after doctor, treatment after treatment, and city after city make no difference. Paula’s feelings run the gamut from terror to rage. But always, there is her food, her cooking, her solace. She buries herself in cooking the way other’s might lose themselves in drink. John’s recovery takes a long time…through the birth and first five years of their daughter’s life. His employers amazingly keep him in jobs of sorts as a reporter, and friends supply accommodations. But it’s hardly dolce far niente. You can almost feel Paula willing John to recover. This is a woman who does not give up. She has a child with a man who is so lost to her and to himself, he can barely speak to her. She brings the child of his previous marriage back into his life. His depression does not stop her from creating a world around him. Whether she does this because she knows it is the life he would want to lead–and should be leading–if he were not ill, or because she’s going for the trappings even if the reality is skewed…readers will have to decide for themselves. I believe the former. I think that had it been possible, Paula would have wiped the flour and spices off her hands, reached deep into John’s psyche and dragged him into the light if she could. This is a woman who doesn’t give up on her man. I have a friend whose husband recently went through a similar breakdown and is now recovering. Her story (sans pasta) is so similar to Paula’s, reading the book was like hearing an echo. That their husbands recovered is truly a testament to the power of love. But Paula would be the better cook by miles.
Rating: 4 / 5